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How to get a woman to Marry you

As I mentioned in my earlier post I knew exactly what I was looking for in a woman so when I came across her I was going to let her know.

I was looking for;

  • Someone dedicated to having a family; I’m not going to beg and plead to have children when she doesn’t want them.
  • A smart woman; despite many women “trying” to act stupid most are intelligent if you con them into a proper conversation on their own.
  • A hard-working woman; Hey if she works hard as a single woman then she will have no problem working alongside me to raise our children.
  • Someone I was attracted to; Ladies you may think that you are ugly but, lose the make up and dress like a modest lady, speak to guys you find interesting and see your luck change.
  • Someone who had their own “wholesome” convictions and would not sacrifice what they believed in for anyone.

So I met her

I started a new job and there she was, I liked her and I let her  know by my actions. I’m no sleaze, I would speak to her about everything even marriage and children to see what her reaction would be.

She passed the first test, she didn’t run. But she did have a boyfriend.

So what do you do when a girl you really like has a boyfriend

Nothing, just wait.

If she is content with her boyfriend so be it. It’s not the end of the world.

But at the same time, don’t give up, don’t drop your convictions to suddenly like everything she likes and don’t be a sleaze.

It just so happens that she was with this guy just to be with someone so they decided to go their separate ways.

When I found out she was single, then we exchanged numbers and began our getting to know each-other phase.


To cut a long story short we were married only months later and now have three children with number four on the way.

So persistence, truth, bravery and sticking to your convictions is how you get a woman to marry you.


But sorry guys it doesn’t end there so a word of caution if you’re not ready to put in a lifetime of hard work for this person, then just stay at home with your parents.




How to get a woman to …

Now I’m no advocate on how to get a woman to have sex with you, never wanted to be, and don’t see sex as something worth getting off multiple strangers.

Family upbringing

Looking back at my parents and how happy they were, there was no question in my mind that when the right girl came along I’d marry her.

Why would I want a fling, when I could have the real thing?

In da Club

While some of the guys I knew were out trying to score each weekend, I was at home studying, reading and YES being lame.

I just didn’t care about the club scene at all. As soon as I hit the legal club age I went a few times and hated it. It was boring and the girls were all fake (so were the boys I guess).

I was so lame that I actually had to ask my friends how it all worked, they told me that you had to approach a girl with some witty remarks and good conversation to get her.

I thought, to get her to what, dance, have sex on the dance-floor? Hey all I wanted to do was talk and if they seemed interesting I’d keep talking, perhaps we could get together another time and continue a friendship.

HAHAHAHAHA, that’s so funny because I soon saw that these girls were not girls at all but just female versions of my friends, here on an ego trip, trying to get laid.

Not what I was looking for; and thankfully I had many friends who thought just as I did, this kept me from the “Allure” of hooking up.

Lame equals uncomfortable and direct

I got over my fear of embarrassing myself long ago. In fact it gave me power, it was my Zen to actually fake embarrass myself in public to get my friends embarrassed, for a laugh at their expense.

As a teenager I approached girls that I thought were interesting and that I’d like to meet at;

The library

Friends of friends

The shopping centre

The beach


Actually everywhere I went there would usually be girls I was attracted to so I’d speak to them, not wanting a number or anything else for that matter.

But if by chance they were something extraordinary that I thought I could see myself being with this person, I’d just tell them.

But hey it never happened until I was 26, and I married her.

Yeah lame story but how do I get a woman?

  • Don’t copy shit from MTV of films just think for a moment of what you really want your future to look like and go find someone in the right places.
  • Don’t be a little coward.
  • Speak up like a man, have convictions don’t agree with them, you are who you are.
  • Be brave look them in the eye and be interested in them, because if you aren’t interested then they aren’t for you.

Why choose to get married?

Why do it?

There are many reasons why people decide to get married but a real marriage should be made from love and understanding. No two people should jump into marriage without mutual agreements on what they expect from each other and what they hope to achieve.

It is impossible to learn why marriage is important from the media and today’s world in general because there has been a system put in place to purposely defame and nullify marriage. Marriage must be experienced in order for it to be properly understood.

Marriage is a new beginning.

Marriage is the opening of a new life for two people. This life will include both happiness and sadness but it is in the actual work needed to contain a happy marriage that both people will find fulfillment.

By the time the question of marriage comes into your life you should be at a mature enough level to want to keep challenging yourself. You should be wise enough to know that your happiness depends on how highly you regard yourself and what better way to test your greatness than with marriage.

You should get married so that you can erase the need for a partner and focus on the many more options that life has to offer you. How much time do men and women spend trying to impress or lure the opposite sex? A life free of this will give you many more hours in your day to build yourself up into the best person you can be.

Maturity, wisdom, self-control and patience all of these things are waiting for you in a marriage, you just need the ambition to be that person you know you can be.

Marriage requires you seek new priorities

I was discussing with my wife when she thinks a boy becomes a man, she and I both agreed that a boy becomes a man when he takes on the responsibility of caring for his wife and when he protects and provides for his children.

Some men may act tough and assume they have their freedom because they don’t work or care for their families, they may think that trying is not required from them. You men are not men at all you are still boys, if you were real men you could handle a wife, children and work and earn the respect from your family.

It is in a man’s true nature to want to take on the world and conquer and experience all that he can, stop glamorizing sex it is just a physical act we use to procreate, strive for more.

So marriage and starting a family to me is the most challenging thing in this world and I’m up for any challenge because I am a real man.

So if you men want to prove to: yourself, your family, the world and God that you have real power then get married.

Patient revenge

Don’t act on your evil intentions. It is  okay  to have  bad or evil intentions but if you wait a while they should disperse.


Often revenge is our defence to a personal offence and it’s warranted and most won ‘t see  no harm in it.

But each time we act  on evil with evil or practice revenge we only harm ourselves.

As humans the more we do something the more accustomed to it be become, We have a knack of creating our own habits for survival.

Don’t include revenge as one of your habits because essentially you are letting others control you.



Love is when

love is when

the dancer becomes unbalanced

the scholar forgets

the preacher reflect within himself

when hearts and souls connect

love is when

solitude is anguish

popularity turns into loneliness

the brave begin to sweat

when purposes become obvious

love is when

eyes say more than mouths

and limbs turn into jelly

when lips quiver

the rich are burdened

and the quiet demand respect

love is when

I found myself at conflict

I no longer wrote a word

I lost all sight of fame and riches

when I reclaimed my soul

10 Things Women would never say and really mean

1. You can do it your way, I’m fine with that.

2. I’m never going to speak to her again.

3. Let’s just drop it.

4. I don’t care how I look.

5. I believe that you want to advance your career to help better support our family, and not just for personal gain.

6. I only use facebook so I know when my friends are having their birthday, so I can send them an eCard.

7. You choose dinner tonight.

8. I need your help.

9. I don’t care if you agree with me or not, just answer the question.

10. You forgot! That is ok we all forget sometimes, you’re only human.