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Without love

Love infects the heartless with hope

Gives yearning to the selfish

A promise of happiness to all

But lost love breeds despair

Adds tension to the air

Sickness to the strong

A yearning to belong

To those who want happiness

I promise you this

Without love for someone

A real life will be missed

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What Children Understand

Wow, it is amazing what children pick-up on. There is no hiding anything when they get to be over three years old. Why didn’t anyone tell me this?

Even having scattered conversations with my wife throughout the day seems to rearrange into comprehensible information inside my children’s heads. Then I face a barrage of questions about my work, bills and who is fighting with who.

The only escape is a second language provided the children don’t understand that as well.

Unfortunately for my parents I understood them when they spoke in their mother tongue trying to hide the conversation.

Deception

I’ve come to the conclusion that there is no point in deceiving the kids about things. But when it comes to that which does not concern them such as Bills, Money and other Adult things that is where I stop talking and they don’t get involved.

Because they are children and don’t need to know about the hard struggle, just the happy bits.

They Understand

Despite how basic their understanding of events and information is; it is a fact that they understand. Whether they just associate bad feelings with a word, it doesn’t matter because the connection has been made.

I’m going to be more careful when I speak and act around my children from now on and I suggest that you do so too.

Love is when

love is when

the dancer becomes unbalanced

the scholar forgets

the preacher reflect within himself

when hearts and souls connect

love is when

solitude is anguish

popularity turns into loneliness

the brave begin to sweat

when purposes become obvious

love is when

eyes say more than mouths

and limbs turn into jelly

when lips quiver

the rich are burdened

and the quiet demand respect

love is when

I found myself at conflict

I no longer wrote a word

I lost all sight of fame and riches

when I reclaimed my soul

Toilet Training Toddlers

I never knew it would be so hard to toilet train my kids.

 

Sure there is plenty of information out there but all kids respond in different ways.

 

The best idea I came across was to sit them on the toilet for a few minutes about half an hour after lunch/dinner until they get used to the idea.

 

Try to keep them occupied with a book or game.

Tell them to pass wind or breathe in and out deeply.

It seems to be getting better,

 

but I guess only time will tell.

Who needs a Father?

I got to stick up for myself but it is hard to do so without coming across as sexist, politically incorrect or misogynistic.

I’m a husband and a father; I am a man therefore I feel what is happening to men  of all ages.

We are looked down upon. ( and I’m in no way praising the bad men or putting down the good women).

Mother’s Day shopping verses Father’s Day shopping

We are all conditioned into believing that women are the beacons of intellectual society therefore we buy them books and get them pampered.

Men are just boys living a suspended adolescence only seeking an X-Box, shaving cream, and radio-controlled helicopters.

Advertising

Men are stupid and cannot do anything at all; on television commercials I’ve seen men struggle to put infant seats in cars, use a vacuum cleaner, pick up a phone and purchase health insurance, the list goes on.

I cannot imagine the uproar that would come if women were portrayed as idiots on television commercials.

The useless father figure

Fathers especially are useless all they do is work then come home sit down and have a beer.

While mother does the cleaning, cooking, all of the parenting, pays the bills, chauffeurs the children and still looks like a supermodel.

Reality

The truth is, I cook everyday, take my kids to the park everyday, bath them, read them stories at bedtime, teach them exercises and how to stick up for themselves, teach them to read, teach them to write, console them and if I have some spare time I write on this blog.

My father did just as much for me and my son will God-willing do the same for his children.

No father

Boys growing up without a father or with a docile father-figure will eat up all the propaganda so I’m telling you men to man up and take control, guide your children.

And women back up your husbands and if they are lazy remind them of what psychological damage they are doing to their children.

Do you think all culture is manufactured/fabricated to control us?

Religion, food, music, film, clothing, language, material possessions; these things basically make up our culture and they are controlled by the media and those in rich high places.

How many people can honestly say that if they had not listened to any music or watched any films they would be in the same situation that they are now?

This propaganda has been put in place and it purposefully separates child from parents “needless rebellion”, man from woman “gender competition”. It controls the direction of our careers in life.

Children used to follow in their parents footsteps and take over the family business, etc.

But now it is rebellion, wasting their youth and money. Wanting easy answers to complex problems.

Do you think this is all on purpose?

I do.

Now is the time for action

It is time

Now is the time for action. Over the years our drive for success and fulfillment have vanished or been replaced with a drive for responsibility and routine. On the face of it it’s all very necessary especially when we have wives and children to take care of. But while giving it some thought the only way to progress through hard times is to work even harder and smarter.

The main reason we do not push ourselves like we did in the past is because we do so much that we cannot ponder the idea of fitting more work into the day.

THE MACHINE MAN

As a single man life was easy and time was available. But my time became more precious and fleeting as I married and had children.

The problem was not a need to dodge my responsibilities as a parent and husband but to embrace them, achieve them and also have time to climb further at work and grow as a person.

After thinking of how I could be there for my wife and kids as well as get that promotion at work or make time to write that novel I realised that I’d have to become a machine man.

BECOMING A MACHINE MAN

I dismissed all suggestions and traditions of what husbands and fathers should do, I focused on what I wanted to achieve and decided that if I could manage my time well then I could achieve anything that I wanted to.

I started to think of myself as a machine and realized that the harder I worked and the more I did, the easier it became for me.

SELF-CONDITIONING

In summation if I was lazy then I conditioned myself into only having the ability to do a little, but if I was hard-working then I was conditioning myself to do more.

The easiest way to achieve results in life is to begin them as good habits then do them routinely until they become a structured part of your everyday life.

There are many things that are good for us in life, some of the things that I feel are essential to me have been purposely weaved through my daily routine. And they are.

  • 30 minutes exercise each morning
  • eat an orange a day
  • at least 30 minutes of sunshine each day
  • stay away from fried food
  • no cigarettes or alcohol
  • positive self-talk
  • have fun with my fellow-workers, wife and children
  • put on a smile even when I’m not happy
  • Stand-up straight and sit-up straight
  • be confident

It has taken me years but I have included all of the above points into my everyday routine, sure sometimes I miss a few but I don’t get stressed  I just tell myself I’m having an off day and try even harder the next day.

CONCLUSION

When there is a need for extra work to be done you can find the strength within yourself. It will not come instantly but only by instilling new good habits into your daily routine. Start them off one by one.

You will find that the more work you do, the more you will be able to achieve and hunger to work even harder. Achieving things will also boost your confidence immensely.
With confidence in yourself you can shape your life into what you want it to be and achieve anything that you want to achieve.