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Who needs a Father?

I got to stick up for myself but it is hard to do so without coming across as sexist, politically incorrect or misogynistic.

I’m a husband and a father; I am a man therefore I feel what is happening to men  of all ages.

We are looked down upon. ( and I’m in no way praising the bad men or putting down the good women).

Mother’s Day shopping verses Father’s Day shopping

We are all conditioned into believing that women are the beacons of intellectual society therefore we buy them books and get them pampered.

Men are just boys living a suspended adolescence only seeking an X-Box, shaving cream, and radio-controlled helicopters.

Advertising

Men are stupid and cannot do anything at all; on television commercials I’ve seen men struggle to put infant seats in cars, use a vacuum cleaner, pick up a phone and purchase health insurance, the list goes on.

I cannot imagine the uproar that would come if women were portrayed as idiots on television commercials.

The useless father figure

Fathers especially are useless all they do is work then come home sit down and have a beer.

While mother does the cleaning, cooking, all of the parenting, pays the bills, chauffeurs the children and still looks like a supermodel.

Reality

The truth is, I cook everyday, take my kids to the park everyday, bath them, read them stories at bedtime, teach them exercises and how to stick up for themselves, teach them to read, teach them to write, console them and if I have some spare time I write on this blog.

My father did just as much for me and my son will God-willing do the same for his children.

No father

Boys growing up without a father or with a docile father-figure will eat up all the propaganda so I’m telling you men to man up and take control, guide your children.

And women back up your husbands and if they are lazy remind them of what psychological damage they are doing to their children.

Managing our time for the benefit of our toddlers

Time management for toddlers

Any single parent or couple with a toddler/toddlers already know the impossible mission of trying to manage time for them to play and interact with you. Most of the time you are unable to sacrifice too many working hours because you need the money for your children and their future.

So the answer is that we must find time somewhere else.

Like other seemingly impossible tasks that we attempt to find time for such as exercise, prayer and meditation; making time at the earliest part of the day is always the best way to go.

Not only does finding time at the start of the day ensure that your toddler/toddlers are awake and fed but it also helps to get it all out of the way and done before you yourself start to get tired from the full day you have ahead of yourself.

Time spent wisely

So you have managed to set an hour or two aside each morning to play and interact with your toddler/toddlers.

Because proper learning at such an early age is so critical to assist in helping all of their functions progress you must be wise with the games you choose to play with them.

Anything that introduces and tests their knowledge of numbers, letters, words, colors, emotions and shapes will be especially beneficiary to their development.

With three children of my own I found it hard to find time so I set aside the time and used it to all of our advantages. I made sure that they got to spend time with a happy father in a friendly atmosphere with plenty of snacks and a variety of games to play.

Toddlers seem to like variety in their lives. When it comes to snacks, toys, clothes and outings; toddlers need a constant change to keep them interested.

Multitasking: combining learning, food and exercise

I found it difficult to teach my son his colors so we invented a game where after a nice play at the park (to get him all energized and hungry), we would sit with a bag of different colored lollies to learn the different colors.

I’d either give him a handful and ask for him to return certain colors (always congratulating him on his achievements) or I’d simply ask him to pick out different colors for me.

I’d also combine learning flash cards with food. We’d get out whatever food corresponded with a particular flash card and ask my children which cards go with which food. They’d learn to associate a cow with milk and a picture of an apple with a real apple, etc.

Also our outings at the park would slowly become lessons in color and objects. When you find yourself having fun teaching your children they will find it fun learning from you.

It needs to be done now

Unfortunately for us parents we not only have a lack of time when it comes to finding time to spend with our toddlers but the clock is also ticking for them as they crave to learn right now.

We need to sacrifice whatever time we can to interact with our toddlers. If we find that we are overwhelmed with house-work them why not get them involved in the work? Let your daughter sweep the floor with you and let your son help wipe down the cupboards, what is work for us is fun for them and especially when they get to work with mommy and daddy.

The bond a new baby brings

The bond a new baby brings

Rise and cry the sterile gawk
My throat is dirt
Refuse to talk
Amazed at what this life has brought
That silent smile
Moves vibrant hearts

I was left with peace of mind
An unexpected piece of mine
My sour grapes made sweeter wine
I’d left the dying world behind

The female vessel sitting strong
Deep in prayer to deflect wrong
Her world had now turned inside out
One crying child attached to spouse

All about the house was fun
Our child had yet to feel the sun
We felt our lives had just begun
A distant vision will be done

Soiled sheets and gargled words
How joyful things are so absurd
We’ve become adults overnight
To child belong our ways and work

But unemployment bore its fangs
It seemed our unit would collapse
With prayer and sacrifice we rose
From nothingness to brand new clothes

And thus the common story goes
A struggling family break the chains
It did take time and tears and pain
To work the negative away

I rise and smile prepare for work
And thank the Lord
For lessons taught
Amazed at what our lives have wrought
Together we’re a vibrant force.